Category Archives: Divorce and Separation
Probate Law and Family Law Lessons to Learn from Anna Nicole Smith
Smith challenged the will, claiming Marshall had promised to leave her more than $300 million in addition to cash and gifts she received during their brief marriage. A bankruptcy judge in California originally decided in her favor, awarding her $475 million from Marshall’s estate, with a federal judge reducing that amount to $89 million in 2002. Now, a California federal judge has ordered Marshall’s estate to “pay sanctions over ‘massive discovery abuse’ in the legal battle against his stepmother, Smith, which will ultimately fall into the hands of Smith’s heir, Dannielynn.
When any person having title to any real estate dies intestate, the real estate passes to the surviving spouse of the intestate. If the intestate is survived by children or grandchildren of a previous relationship who are not related by blood to the surviving spouse, two-thirds of the estate pass to all the intestate’s children and grandchildren, and the spouse gets the last third. However, if the property was originally an inheritance from the deceased’s family, then it passes directly to the children and grandchildren. Sound confusing?
The right of survivorship means that when two or more people own property, upon the death of one of the owners, the property remains in the hands of the surviving owners or successors who assert the right of survivorship. The right of survivorship takes precedence over other claims to the property. It is the royal flush of ownership claims, and is the best way to ensure that your property is going to the right people.
Divorcing a Narcissist
Divorce Without Divorce Court: New Changes in Virginia Law
Fortunately, courtroom television shows rarely depict the realities of the real courtroom process. However, going to court is very scary for most people, and people in the midst of the emotionally trying divorce process are no exception.
A new law in Virginia will make it possible for parties to get a divorce without having to attend an extended court hearing. Recently approved by the Virginia General Assembly to amend the existing Virginia Code Section 20-106, the Bill allows some parties to present evidence by providing a written and sworn affidavit or written deposition, instead of having to appear in court.
The first method is a divorce by deposition (written) which requires the Plaintiff and the corroborating witness to provide their testimony in the presence of a court reporter. The court reporter will prepare a transcript of the testimony which the Plaintiff will then submit to the court, typically through his/her attorney. The second method allows the Plaintiff to provide a written affidavit, which must conform to specific requirements, and the witness simply writes their testimony down and signs it in the presence of a notary. Since Virginia law allows any notary to witness the signature, neither the Plaintiff nor the witness need to be located in Virginia to testify via affidavit.
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Changes in Virginia’s Divorce Laws Make it Easier to Divorce an Unresponsive Spouse
Recent changes in
Virginia law have made it easier to get a divorce when one spouse is
unresponsive or unwilling to proceed with a divorce.
Amended
Virginia Code Section
The General
Assembly amended Virginia Code Section 20-99 to decrease the number of
service attempts for giving notice to an unresponsive spouse. (See House Bill 104 and Senate Bill 60 for text of the amendment).
First
Steps in Filing Divorce Papers: Waiting 21 Days
The first step in
filing for divorce is to file a divorce complaint with the appropriate circuit
court and have it served on your spouse, the Defendant in this matter. Virginia
law has always required proper service of the initial divorce complaint on the
Defendant, by any of the methods prescribed in Section 8.01-296 by any person authorized to
serve process under Section 8.01-293. The Plaintiff-Spouse must then
wait 21 days for the Defendant to file an answer or otherwise appear before the
court. If the Defendant has not responded during that time-period, depending on
your local circuit court’s rules, the next step would be to set a time for
depositions or to request entry of the Final Decree of Divorce by the
court.
Easier
Service Requirements
Under the old law,
you would have to notice the Defendant of the time for depositions or entry of
the divorce decree by properly serving them again, as required by the Code. This
notice requirement also allowed Defendant a second chance to respond and potentially
contest the divorce. The new law, however, removes this notice requirement
therefore making it easier for you to proceed with the divorce on your own. The
amendment to Section 20-99 of the Virginia Code states that
where a Defendant was properly served with the divorce complaint and has failed to answer
within the time allotted by law, no further notice to the Defendant is
required. In other words, you can proceed with divorce by deposition or by
requesting entry of the Final Divorce Decree and an Ore Tenus Hearing, neither
of which requires consent by your spouse.
The change in law
should lead to a slightly expedited divorce for the filing spouse.
Six Tips to Dating After Divorce
After all of the divorce drama clears, the litigation ends and you’ve healed your emotional, divorce battle wounds, you may actually look forward to dating. Many recently divorced singles swear off dating, but in my experience, this mentality never lasts, and it’s rarely emotionally healthy. Just because you’re divorced does not mean you’re no longer desirable and fun.
1. Do not start dating until after you’re divorced. Post-separation dating is never a good idea and can work against you, especially if you have kids. Don’t risk angering your spouse, alienating your friends and children and risk reducing your divorce property distribution and visitation rights by dating before you obtain your final divorce decree.Another reason to begin dating AFTER your divorce is that you’re probably not emotionally ready to begin dating, even if you were the one who initiated the divorce (a.k.a., “the leaver”). It’s not fair to yourself, your spouse, your children and your new partner to begin dating if you’re not emotionally ready and before you obtain your divorce decree.In Virginia, most often, you need to live separate and apart for at least six months (no children) to one-year (children) before filing for divorce. The mandatory separation period not only makes legal sense but emotional sense, since most experts recommend waiting at least one-year to begin dating, and the year period begins after divorce.2. Keep your children separate from your dating life. This may seem like a no-brainer, but it’s a rule that many single parents don’t follow, especially, those who rush into dating or those with limited means and can’t find babysitters and primary custodians. Typically, you should only introduce your new partner to your children if you’re fairly certain the relationship is serious, you’ve had several dates and have discussed the future, and you do so in an age-appropriate manner.3. Similar to Tip Number 2, above, is this one: Schedule your dating around your custodial and visitation schedule. Go on dates while your former spouse is exercising his/her visitation time with your child(ren).4. Be safe! Don’t give your address out to people you haven’t met. If this is a blind date, meet at a popular restaurant or other well-traveled venue. Resist your carnal urges and avoid the temptation to sleeping with your date early on. It’s always better to establish trust, get to know one another and do it when you’re ready. Maybe not drinking too much is key.5. Avoid pissing your former spouse off. If you flaunt your new single status around, you may find yourself in court again for post-decree divorce litigation; doing it before divorce is a surefire way of pissing off your spouse (and maybe, the courts). Exercising sound discretion, humility and compassion is key.6. Think twice before changing your status on Facebook, Twitter or other social media sites. Do you really want judges, lawyers, your spouse or former spouse and your new friends to have access to your private dating life?
Is January the Busiest Month for Divorce Attorneys?
Attorneys who practice family law may refer to January as “divorce month.” Based on my experience, more people decide to divorce in January than any other month during the year. Divorcing during the holidays is a prevalent theme for many divorce attorneys.
Avoiding Baby Mama or Papa Drama by Allowing Visitation
We receive at least one or two calls every month from distressed mothers and fathers dealing with their ex-significant others. Typically, the caller asks the following question, “Do I have to allow visitation when my ex (typically dad) doesn’t pay child support?” Our answer is always the same: “YES!” All parents have legal rights to visitation unless they have none pursuant to court order or termination of parental rights. In Virginia, like almost every other jurisdiction, you cannot withhold visitation simply based on the fact that your ex is no longer paying child support.
Do Not Withhold Visitation as Punishment for Nonpayment of Child Support
Remedies for Nonpayment of Child Support
Conversely, if your ex withholds visitation from you, you can’t unilaterally retaliate by refusing to pay child support. These things are not contingent upon each other. Your attorney may be able to help you reduce your future monthly child support obligation, but this has to be done by consent order or through court.
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A Difficult Marriage is Often Better Than Divorce
Recently, I came across a very interesting study that reported
most people who ultimately decided to divorce reported that they were
“happy” with their marriages in the five years leading up to their
divorces.
Divorce Doesn’t Always Mean Years of Unhappiness
Many of us mistakenly believe that people who ultimately divorce
have been unhappy for quite some time before making the decision to divorce.
According to this “Washington Post” article written by William J. Doherty
and Leah Ward Sears, most divorces happen to couples who are mostly content and
could possibly work harder to save their marriages. Should we do more as divorce
lawyers to encourage our clients to use their waiting periods before filing for
divorce to work harder on reconciliation? The article further states that in
most non-abusive marriages, the decision to divorce has the greatest potential
to harm the children involved.
You are Responsible for Your Marital Bliss
We are a society that wants things immediately. We want instant
gratification, and we want the feelings that bring us discomfort to end as
quickly as possible. We blame others for our unhappiness, and we mistakenly
believe that our partners are responsible for our happiness or unhappiness.
The Importance of Divorce Waiting Periods
Although most states implement a mandatory waiting period before
allowing couples to divorce, the waiting periods are not extensive. In fact,
most states impose a waiting period of six months or less. Virginia’s one-year
waiting period should become the model for other states. In Virginia, you need
to wait at least a year before you can ask for a final divorce, unless you have
no children and have a property settlement agreement. In this case, you only
need to remain separate and apart from your spouse for six months.
Consider
Reconciliation During the One-Year Waiting Period in Virginia
However, although the one-year waiting period in Virginia serves
as a “cooling-off” period where spouses have time to seriously
consider whether or not they want to divorce, as family law attorneys, we can
do more to help our clients seriously consider reconciliation as an option.
Virginia family law attorneys can help their clients consider reconciliation as
a serious option by recommending couples’ therapy. In contrast to “divorce
therapy,” couples’ therapists help couples look at fixing their marriages,
instead of looking at divorce as the ultimate solution.
Divorced, Still Depressed and Even Unhappier
Many studies, including the study by the University of Chicago’s
Linda Waite, lead us to conclude that most divorced individuals reported being
unhappy even after they divorced. In Waite’s “Does Divorce Make People Happy?” study, subjects
reported that divorcing did not help them find happiness. Divorced spouses
drank more than their married counterparts did, and they reported lower levels
of self-esteem and higher levels of depression.
Unhappy Couples Can Find Happiness in Working on Their Marriages
What’s even more astounding and surprising is that these
researchers found that most couples who reported being “very unhappy”
at the time of their study reported being “very happy” five years
later after staying married. Couples who work through their problems, instead
of resorting to divorce, may build stronger marriages by developing their
communication skills and learning to live harmoniously with one another.
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Divorce in Virginia v. Divorce in Other States: Part II
In my first blog entry of this series, “Divorce in Virginia v. Divorce in Other States: Part I,” I introduced you to the American Bar Association’s article in its Family Law Quarterly, which provides a state-by-state comparison on the divorce and custody laws between states. I covered how Virginia compared to other states when courts calculate alimony or spousal support and child support.
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Legal
Disclaimer: The information provided on
“Keithleylaw.com” is strictly for educational purposes and to provide you with
general educational information about Virginia laws. Since state laws are
subject to change, please schedule an appointment with our office to further
discuss your personal situation. This public information is neither intended
to, nor will, create an attorney-client relationship.